遇上Jezebel

Jezebel, by Sade, 2001 live

最近見到空姐個blog 的大戰，想寫blog時itune又碰巧選中這首歌，頗應境：

Jezebel wasn't born with a silver spoon in her mouth
She probably had less than every one of us
But when she knew how to walk she knew
How to bring the house down
Can't blame her for her beauty
She wins with her hands down
Jezebel, what a belle
Looks like a princess in her new dress
How did you get that
Do you really want to know, she said
It would seem she's on her way
It's more, more than just a dream
She put on her stockings and shoes
Had nothing to lose - she said it was worth it

Reach for the top
And the sun is gonna shine
Every winter was a war she said
I want to get what's mine

Jezebel Jezebel
Won't try to deny where she came from
You can see it in her pride
And the raven in her eyes
Try show her a better way
She'll say you don't know what you've been missing
And by the time she blinks you know she won't be listening

Reach for the top she said
And the sun is gonna shine
Every winter was a war she said
I want to get what's mine

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關於說錯話：

大家只是普通人，永遠無法掌握一件事的全部。所以，只能憑事情的局部去發表意見。

例如，根據我對聖經的理解，我認為教會應包容同性戀者。

如此陳述，既清晰表達自己意見，同時自處於一個較謙卑的位置，因為「我對聖經的理解」是有限的、可能充滿謬誤的。如果閣下有更佳的見解，提出來就是，尤其要發表有爭議性話題時，可以減輕backfire的力度。而且說話沒講得那麼「死」，往後仍然可以調整意見又保持誠實。

雖然黑人一直政冷感，貝理雅卸任時講的一句，卻印象深刻: I did what I thought was right for our country.

這句說話很高明，隱含了幾個意思1.) 我盡了力把事情做好 2.) 我的能力是有限的，也沒有水晶球 3.) 縱使盡力做正確的事，可能不夠好甚至是錯的

相對起大言不慚 I did the right thing，前者來得謙卑誠實。

日後發表批評或偉論，可借鏡貝理雅的修辭。